“I’m fine” is costing you free confidence boosts
My wife said something that offended me last month.
Obviously, I couldn’t admit that I was hurt. I’m a man. The responsible thing to do is bottle it up until it becomes heart disease.
At least I don’t look sensitive.
But really, I’d just given away free confidence for us both.
🎮 Cheat Code: Multiplayer Mode
We often think hiding our struggles is a win.
It makes us look strong in the moment. But we’re just giving in to fear of being judged. It’s the opposite of confidence.
The truth is, vulnerability is a multiplayer power-up.
And we can make sharing easier by trading the usual “How’s it going?” for a more intentional question. Try Multiplayer Mode:
“What was the best and worst part of your week?”
Celebrate their wins. Encourage them in struggles. Usually, they’ll throw the question back, which gives you an easy way to share too.
Vulnerability is the ultimate team confidence boost because:
- You gain confidence from encouragement.
- They gain confidence from helping.
Everybody wins.
⭐Win of the Week
Later, when we were in the car, I turned to my wife and said,
“Hey, something you said earlier kind of bothered me”
The first few words are always the hardest for me.
We talked about it. She didn’t mean what she said the way I took it. But it’s what she said next that mattered most.
“I appreciate you telling me and not holding it in”
Imagine that. Somehow an irritating moment turned into me feeling courageous and her feeling trusted.
▶️ Press Play
This week I built a new, faster flow for completing confidence challenges.
People told me the old version asked too many questions. Taking a brave step is hard enough without a full interview afterward.
The new flow captures just enough to encourage you later. If you haven’t tried out Roadmap yet, get your first win here!
Your Turn
You build confidence by encouraging and being encouraged. So instead of hiding, share your struggles. Vulnerability is a team confidence boost.
Love,
-T.O
