33 Confidence Cheat Codes I Learned Before 33

I turn 33 this week.

I’ve always believed in learning from other people’s mistakes wisdom.

And while it's easier said than done, I’ll give you a chance to skim off my stumbles.

Here are 33 confidence cheat codes I've learned.

1. Turn it around. Social anxiety is your chance to build confidence. When it hits, pause and ask, “What’s the smallest step I can take right now?” Then take it.
2. Bigger fears, more confidence. The more something worries you, the more confidence you build when you face it.
3. Celebrate every win. Write down the best part and why it mattered. Your future anxious self will thank you for the boost.
4. Fuel Up. Replay your wins every morning and when you feel anxious. It’ll remind you that ​you can handle bigger fears.​
5. Know your routes. Track when and where your anxiety shows up. Spot the patterns. Read your wins before you step into them.
6. Keep Driving. Do something every day. Momentum makes confidence easier. Zero days will make you rusty.
7. P.U.S.H. to grow. Confidence is a muscle. Every once in a while, pick a challenge with more ​People, Uncertainty, Stakes, or Hours.​
8. Just show up. This is more than half the battle.
9. Spark a spiral. Pick a small step. Small win → confidence → bigger win.
10. Have Fun. Building confidence should feel ​like a game​. You’ll have wins and losses, but usually you have a chance to try again.
11. Beat Yourself. Your only job is to be more confident than the past version of you.
12. Multiplayer Mode. Find people who are good at being vulnerable. It’ll help you share, even if it doesn’t happen right away.
13. Tell the truth. Vulnerability is the truth about me. Hiding it is lying to you.
14. Throw the boomerang. Encourage other people. It helps them and reminds you that you have more to give than you think.
15. Motivation follows growth. Push yourself and grow. You’ll be motivated to do it again.
16. Win when you lose. After a confidence loss, ​count your wins.​ There are always some.
17. Don’t run. When we avoid things, we feel a void.
18. Share your gifts. Use your strengths to help others. It’ll remind you that you have them.
19. Throw a party. Plan a personal celebration when you hit a confidence milestone.
20. Stop saying I’m fine. Let people know when you’re not ok. You’ll get a ​free confidence boost.​
21. Bae Boost. Being with the right person can make your confidence grow faster. Choose wisely. Thanks babe.
22. Give yourself grace. Not every day will be a confidence win. How you handle the bad days matters most.
23. Authenticity is confidence. Be yourself. Everyone else is taken.
24. It’s not always loud. Sometimes confidence is a calm “you hurt me” more than a loud “look at what I did”.
25. The rich get richer. If you hide what you think, you’ll have less to say. If you share what you know, your voice will grow.
26. Set yourself up. If you struggle to share, ask people questions. They’ll usually throw it back to you.
27. Win better prizes. Ask better questions and unlock better conversations. ​Here are some you can steal.​
28. Just Say It. If you can’t say it in person, call. If you can’t call, text. Whatever you do, say it.
29. It’s not about you. Meeting people isn’t about you. It’s a ​treasure hunt​ to find out what’s interesting about them.
30. Write, then speak. Writing helps you be a better talker. Just don’t over prepare. You’re a human, not a robot.
31. Procrastination hides power. That thing you keep avoiding is your biggest confidence boost. Make a ​quick move​ to get going.
32. Don’t bury the evidence. Your past wins prove you can have confidence. Don’t bury them.
33. Don’t cheat the game. When you hide what is wrong, you lose confidence and block others from helping.

I hope this helped you. Let me know which lesson you resonated with most!